Comments on: Letting go of the past: how to let go of the past to achieve a peaceful and content life http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/ Christian Family Resources Sat, 04 Feb 2012 02:04:33 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Africa http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-4380 Africa Sun, 21 Aug 2011 09:37:38 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-4380 This blog was what I needed WHEN I needed it most!! I've been suffering & hurting so much over a failed relationship, over being decieved & lied to over & over again by the man I truly believed was my soulmate. I had forgiven him & taken him back foolishly, after finding out he had lied to me about everything from what he did for a living, to where he lived & the car he drove, EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME, He confessed, were Lies! But I lve always been a Christian & believed in forgiveness, so I took my chances & accepted him back into my life & my kids lives. Long story short, he end to leaving his hometown to go to school n Texas & thats when the lies & deceit went to a new level! We've always been in a long distance relationship. I'm from Arkansas, he's from Oklahoma, but we vowed to remain honest & faithful. Needless to say I'm the only one that kept that vow. I've been so devastated & hurt, trying to piece together why this happened, praying everyday for peace, healing, & understanding, but its been hard because I keep reminding myself of all the promises he made to me & my children. I know it was in Gods plan to get me out of that situation, but its hard imagining my life without him! We had such great times & I guess that's the "nostalgic hope" u mentioned that I keep dwelling on. I've made up my mind that I'm DONE with him, & I pray everyday for his success in school & life, but I can't stop missing him or asking myself how a person could hurt someone who had been nothing but faithful, loyal & prayerful on their behalf. This blog has encouraged me to stop dwelling on the hurt & let God take care of him, & to allow this situation to help me be the effective witness that God has called me to be! Thank u & God bless, to All who've posted, its Really been an inspiration & blessing to me & my journey! I now know without a doubt that this pain is all apart of His devine & perfect plan & Ill be able to help someone else come out of their storm with the same faith & confidence in God! This blog was what I needed WHEN I needed it most!! I’ve been suffering & hurting so much over a failed relationship, over being decieved & lied to over & over again by the man I truly believed was my soulmate. I had forgiven him & taken him back foolishly, after finding out he had lied to me about everything from what he did for a living, to where he lived & the car he drove, EVERYTHING HE TOLD ME, He confessed, were Lies! But I lve always been a Christian & believed in forgiveness, so I took my chances & accepted him back into my life & my kids lives. Long story short, he end to leaving his hometown to go to school n Texas & thats when the lies & deceit went to a new level! We’ve always been in a long distance relationship. I’m from Arkansas, he’s from Oklahoma, but we vowed to remain honest & faithful. Needless to say I’m the only one that kept that vow. I’ve been so devastated & hurt, trying to piece together why this happened, praying everyday for peace, healing, & understanding, but its been hard because I keep reminding myself of all the promises he made to me & my children. I know it was in Gods plan to get me out of that situation, but its hard imagining my life without him! We had such great times & I guess that’s the “nostalgic hope” u mentioned that I keep dwelling on. I’ve made up my mind that I’m DONE with him, & I pray everyday for his success in school & life, but I can’t stop missing him or asking myself how a person could hurt someone who had been nothing but faithful, loyal & prayerful on their behalf. This blog has encouraged me to stop dwelling on the hurt & let God take care of him, & to allow this situation to help me be the effective witness that God has called me to be! Thank u & God bless, to All who’ve posted, its Really been an inspiration & blessing to me & my journey! I now know without a doubt that this pain is all apart of His devine & perfect plan & Ill be able to help someone else come out of their storm with the same faith & confidence in God!

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-2037 Eren Mckay Fri, 10 Sep 2010 15:25:46 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-2037 Hi Alan, I completely agree with you that we love to glamorize the past. We tend to forget the hardships and only reminisce in the all the wonderful things we experienced. On the other side of the spectrum some people keep reliving the pain they went through which keeps them stuck feeling that same pain over and over again. It's important to work through the emotions that keep us stuck and then put those things behind us as this verse says: <BR> <b>Philippians 3:13b-14 But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.</b> <BR> The Lord has come to set us free. We are not in bondage to our past. We must learn and grow and then embrace our purpose. If we are still alive that means we still have a purpose on this Earth. We still have lives to reach. The Lord is not done with us here on Earth. The day that He is done, that is when He will take us to heaven to be with Him where there is not pain, no tears, no hurt. We are not slaves.. we are free as these verses say: <BR> <b>For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, "Abba, Father." Romans 8:15 <BR> It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery. Galatians 5:1</b> <BR> We must draw near to Him in prayer and praise and listen to Him. He will show us His direction for our lives. I'm happy that this article has helped you Alan. I'm writing lessons on how to achieve goals and only my subscribers will receive them. If you want to receive my newsletter and these lessons you can sign up at this link: http://www.embracinghome.com/newsletter/ May the Lord fill you with His wisdom. Blessings, Eren Hi Alan,
I completely agree with you that we love to glamorize the past. We tend to forget the hardships and only reminisce in the all the wonderful things we experienced. On the other side of the spectrum some people keep reliving the pain they went through which keeps them stuck feeling that same pain over and over again. It’s important to work through the emotions that keep us stuck and then put those things behind us as this verse says:

Philippians 3:13b-14
But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.

The Lord has come to set us free. We are not in bondage to our past. We must learn and grow and then embrace our purpose. If we are still alive that means we still have a purpose on this Earth. We still have lives to reach. The Lord is not done with us here on Earth. The day that He is done, that is when He will take us to heaven to be with Him where there is not pain, no tears, no hurt. We are not slaves.. we are free as these verses say:

For you did not receive a spirit that makes you a slave again to fear, but you received the Spirit of sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.”
Romans 8:15

It is for freedom that Christ has set us free. Stand firm, then, and do not let yourselves be burdened again by a yoke of slavery.
Galatians 5:1

We must draw near to Him in prayer and praise and listen to Him. He will show us His direction for our lives.
I’m happy that this article has helped you Alan. I’m writing lessons on how to achieve goals and only my subscribers will receive them. If you want to receive my newsletter and these lessons you can sign up at this link:
http://www.embracinghome.com/newsletter/

May the Lord fill you with His wisdom.
Blessings,
Eren

]]> By: Alan http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-2021 Alan Tue, 07 Sep 2010 16:18:26 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-2021 Thanks, Eren. I found your blog when searching for "letting go of the past". I think we do tend to glamorize the past in our nostalgia as much as we can victimize it. Our past has help to mold us into who we are but it doesn't determine our future. Looking in the rearview mirror too much keeps your eyes off the road ahead of you and off the Savior. I, also, came out of a divorce from a 29 year marriage. I've lamented over "standing" for that marriage because I know God hates divorce but also felt that keeps me in the bondage of my past. I do pray for a reconciliation but also want to leave my hands free from clinging to the past so I can receive what God has for me in the future. It's a daily struggle but my prayer is for my heart to be released from the that past and embrace what is in my present and break free of the shackles this life can restrain us with. I can't change someone's heart, including my own; only God can do that. I can only walk in obedience and hope that my love and transparency work together with my past to become my ministry now. I appreciate the thoughts that you shared here and I am sharing it with others who may be trapped in their minds with their pain. Blessings, Alan Thanks, Eren. I found your blog when searching for “letting go of the past”. I think we do tend to glamorize the past in our nostalgia as much as we can victimize it. Our past has help to mold us into who we are but it doesn’t determine our future. Looking in the rearview mirror too much keeps your eyes off the road ahead of you and off the Savior.

I, also, came out of a divorce from a 29 year marriage. I’ve lamented over “standing” for that marriage because I know God hates divorce but also felt that keeps me in the bondage of my past. I do pray for a reconciliation but also want to leave my hands free from clinging to the past so I can receive what God has for me in the future. It’s a daily struggle but my prayer is for my heart to be released from the that past and embrace what is in my present and break free of the shackles this life can restrain us with. I can’t change someone’s heart, including my own; only God can do that. I can only walk in obedience and hope that my love and transparency work together with my past to become my ministry now.

I appreciate the thoughts that you shared here and I am sharing it with others who may be trapped in their minds with their pain.

Blessings,
Alan

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-857 Eren Mckay Mon, 30 Nov 2009 22:54:51 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-857 Hi Raquel, Amen sister. If you pray and ask the Lord to help release the hurt and give you the strength, He will give you the answers that you need to hear to be able to be free. Once I prayed for 7 hours straight to forgive someone. It took 7 hours of prayer but I was able to let go and forgive through the grace that He gave me in that prayer time. I cried out to Jesus literally and He came and gave me the strength to forgive. When we pray and ask Him to explain things to us also this helps very much - since we know that all things happen for the good of those who love God ( and I know that you love Him). Here's the Bible verse that says this: Roman 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. So everything that has happened has a purpose in your life. Every part of it. Even if you can't see why at this moment you have to believe and trust that there is a why because that verse says so. Blessings to you sister ♥ In Christ, Eren Hi Raquel,
Amen sister. If you pray and ask the Lord to help release the hurt and give you the strength, He will give you the answers that you need to hear to be able to be free. Once I prayed for 7 hours straight to forgive someone. It took 7 hours of prayer but I was able to let go and forgive through the grace that He gave me in that prayer time. I cried out to Jesus literally and He came and gave me the strength to forgive.
When we pray and ask Him to explain things to us also this helps very much – since we know that all things happen for the good of those who love God ( and I know that you love Him).
Here’s the Bible verse that says this:

Roman 8:28
And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

So everything that has happened has a purpose in your life. Every part of it. Even if you can’t see why at this moment you have to believe and trust that there is a why because that verse says so.
Blessings to you sister ♥
In Christ,
Eren

]]> By: Raquel http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-854 Raquel Mon, 30 Nov 2009 17:15:11 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-854 Hi Erin, I'm fairly new to your blog but I just had to comment on your topic of letting go of negative history.. I too have been guilty of hanging on to past hurts but I'm more determined then ever to learn how to let go (with the Lord's help). Harboring past grievances does nothing to enrich the spirit. I want to be "free" of old hurts so that the Lord can come into my heart and spirit and manifest as only He can do. Thank you for your encouragement. May you and your family be blessed beyond measure--filled, overflowing, running over! Blessings, Raquel Hi Erin,

I’m fairly new to your blog but I just had to comment on your topic of letting go of negative history.. I too have been guilty of hanging on to past hurts but I’m more determined then ever to learn how to let go (with the Lord’s help). Harboring past grievances does nothing to enrich the spirit. I want to be “free” of old hurts so that the Lord can come into my heart and spirit and manifest as only He can do. Thank you for your encouragement. May you and your family be blessed beyond measure–filled, overflowing, running over!

Blessings,
Raquel

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-702 Eren Mckay Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:43:08 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-702 <strong>@Pete </strong>It totally encourages me to know that the Lord used these posts to help you grow in Him. When He told me to start a Christian blog I knew that He would reach His children through it. It's just a matter of always keeping our minds aligned to His truth and making enough time to do so. God bless you Pete:-D In Christ, Eren @Pete It totally encourages me to know that the Lord used these posts to help you grow in Him. When He told me to start a Christian blog I knew that He would reach His children through it. It’s just a matter of always keeping our minds aligned to His truth and making enough time to do so.
God bless you Pete:-D
In Christ,
Eren

]]> By: Pete Bass http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-685 Pete Bass Tue, 06 Oct 2009 17:56:38 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-685 Hi Eren, I came over here for a different link and just had to spend some time reading several of your posts. Thank you for your encouragement. Whenever I need to be lifted up I know that God's word is the place to go, but sometimes the world beckons and I don't get there like I ought to. At times like that God has a way to do an end run around me and this time He used your blog. God bless you Eren, Pete Hi Eren,
I came over here for a different link and just had to spend some time reading several of your posts. Thank you for your encouragement. Whenever I need to be lifted up I know that God’s word is the place to go, but sometimes the world beckons and I don’t get there like I ought to. At times like that God has a way to do an end run around me and this time He used your blog.

God bless you Eren,
Pete

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-256 Eren Mckay Mon, 11 May 2009 18:30:02 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-256 Hi Carol- yes when we embrace change as a natural part of life and decide to focus on the positive we can go so much further and <a href="http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/">let go of the past</a>. When we also decide to help others- the Lord ends up revealing certain things to us because we have decided to be an open vessel for Him. For example just by writing to you right now the Lord gave me an answer to something that I really needed an answer for. Letting the Lord flow through us is <a href="http://www.embracinghome.com/encouraging-inspirational-bible-verses/">encouraging & inspirational</a> for others and for ourselves. He does that. The more we give and seek, the more He answers us. So glad you stopped by- hope you come back more. Blessings, Eren Mckay Hi Carol- yes when we embrace change as a natural part of life and decide to focus on the positive we can go so much further and let go of the past.
When we also decide to help others- the Lord ends up revealing certain things to us because we have decided to be an open vessel for Him.
For example just by writing to you right now the Lord gave me an answer to something that I really needed an answer for.
Letting the Lord flow through us is encouraging & inspirational for others and for ourselves.
He does that. The more we give and seek, the more He answers us.
So glad you stopped by- hope you come back more.
Blessings,
Eren Mckay

]]> By: Carol http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-251 Carol Sat, 09 May 2009 07:59:15 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-251 Erin I recently spoke to a man on Thursday night who was seperated from his wife and had hopes of reuniting with her after 22 years of marriage...i could see the pain in his face...i wished him the best and i told him that i had recently come through a divorce after 26 years of marriage...but i told him that he needed to reflect on the positive and all the good that came out of his marriage instead of the bad...i told him that i recently found some photos that had been missing for about 10 years of my ex husband...me....and our children...and when i finally managed to put them together in the photo album according to geneology...it finally came together like a beautiful mosaic of what we once shared as a family and it ministered healing to me...i plan on sharing it with my children on Mothers Day hoping that it will do the same for them...what i thought was so shattered and broken...was really not that shattered and broken at all...change is good...we have to be able to adapt to it...because this earth is not our home...one day we will be leaving to be with Jesus...we cannot love this world more than we love him...in the end this gentleman was very thankful for what i shared with him...i can't tell it all because it would become to lengthy...but thank you as well because i was truly blessed by what you shared. Carol~A Song of Praise~ Erin
I recently spoke to a man on Thursday night who was seperated from his wife and had hopes of reuniting with her after 22 years of marriage…i could see the pain in his face…i wished him the best and i told him that i had recently come through a divorce after 26 years of marriage…but i told him that he needed to reflect on the positive and all the good that came out of his marriage instead of the bad…i told him that i recently found some photos that had been missing for about 10 years of my ex husband…me….and our children…and when i finally managed to put them together in the photo album according to geneology…it finally came together like a beautiful mosaic of what we once shared as a family and it ministered healing to me…i plan on sharing it with my children on Mothers Day hoping that it will do the same for them…what i thought was so shattered and broken…was really not that shattered and broken at all…change is good…we have to be able to adapt to it…because this earth is not our home…one day we will be leaving to be with Jesus…we cannot love this world more than we love him…in the end this gentleman was very thankful for what i shared with him…i can’t tell it all because it would become to lengthy…but thank you as well because i was truly blessed by what you shared.

Carol~A Song of Praise~

]]> By: Eren Mckay http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-169 Eren Mckay Mon, 16 Mar 2009 20:24:38 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-169 Hi Bobby- thanks so much for stopping by- it's a pleasure to have you here ;-D Yeah that's something that took me a while to get- but I had this AHA moment one day and figured out that this is what stopped joy from happening each moment of my life. It was either resentment or too much nostalgia. There would be so much more joy in people's lives if they knew this. Blessings, Eren Mckay Hi Bobby- thanks so much for stopping by- it’s a pleasure to have you here ;-D
Yeah that’s something that took me a while to get- but I had this AHA moment one day and figured out that this is what stopped joy from happening each moment of my life.
It was either resentment or too much nostalgia.
There would be so much more joy in people’s lives if they knew this.
Blessings,
Eren Mckay

]]> By: Bobby Revell http://www.embracinghome.com/letting-go-of-past/#comment-168 Bobby Revell Sun, 15 Mar 2009 17:18:19 +0000 http://www.embracinghome.com/?p=1085#comment-168 Hello Eren! I used to wallow in mistakes, failed relationships and many other aspects of my past, but I live in the present now. What I do right now matters most, and it took me many years to actually "get it". It's OK to remember and cherish things in our memory, but living in a past fantasy can really cause problems. We can choose to only see the bad, but that is so unhealthy in every way. I choose to live happy and not let all the bad in the world weigh too heavily on my mind. I only control me, not the world! This is a very insightful post :smile: Hello Eren! I used to wallow in mistakes, failed relationships and many other aspects of my past, but I live in the present now. What I do right now matters most, and it took me many years to actually “get it”.

It’s OK to remember and cherish things in our memory, but living in a past fantasy can really cause problems. We can choose to only see the bad, but that is so unhealthy in every way. I choose to live happy and not let all the bad in the world weigh too heavily on my mind. I only control me, not the world!

This is a very insightful post :smile:

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