By Eren Mckay
Filed under Personal Development and Growth
One of the main reasons people are not content is because they hang onto the past with all their might. They may be hanging onto negative past things or clinging on to the “Good’ole Days” so tightly that they don’t give themselves room to experience present joys.
Hanging onto Negative past things
After going through certain trauma- every time I would try to move ahead and get something done it was like I was stuck. One day I talked to a friend of mine and asked for help. She said to me- you’re not moving forward because you’re not letting go of the past. At that moment- I felt my mind shift. That’s all I needed to hear to decide not to dwell on the past anymore. After that talk with my friend I was out of the rut and able to move forward.
In order to move on you need to let certain things behind you. Put your thoughts, ideas, and energy towards what you are going to do not what happened and all of the injustices you went through.
You can actually take control of your thoughts and move on. Move ahead. Don’t let the past determine your present or your future.
Changing your perspective is a decision that you need to make to be able to live a happy and fulfilled life. When you feel the hurt and the pain or what you have gone through simply focus on the good that came out of the situation. Focus on the positive outcome. If you can’t think of one simply trust God that there is one and you just can’t see it right now.
Forgive those who have hurt you and you will be able to achieve what God has for your life. If you don’t do this your mind will be stuck in the mud of the past and you will find yourself going around in circles. Let it go and you will begin to experience God’s purpose come to fruition in your life.
The Opposite Side: Hanging on too tightly to the “Good Past”
We’ve discussed how hanging onto negative things is bad for us. There’s a flip side to this which is clinging on too tightly to the good’ ole days. Every time I’ve heard of someone talk about nostalgia and the past almost always it’s seen as a good thing.
I for one like to reminisce and think about good things that have happened to me in the past. That’s one of the reason I love scrapbooking. The past is great and has helped mold who we are.
But if we are constantly thinking of what life was like “way back then” and comparing it to our “not so great present situation we will always be unhappy. There is however a fine line between reminiscing and clinging onto the past.
If we cling too tightly, our current situation will never seem to live up to the “Good ole days.” Especially because we tend to forget the difficulties that we experienced only remembering the good parts.
Excessive nostalgia is not good for us. Throw the excessive nostalgia out the window. We shouldn’t throw our past out the window but we should definitely get rid of clinging to it if it is robbing us of contentment.
When looking up the definition of nostalgia we see that it says: longing or yearning for something that is in the past. Most of the times what we are longing for just isn’t possible in our present lives. If we don’t perceive that we are being nostalgic it can overcome our lives and make us miserable. When we don’t let go of focusing on our “wonderful past”, frustration and resentment begin to settle into our hearts. And this robs us of our present joy and happiness.
Life is in constant movement. There will always be changes. Our ability to let go and move on, will open us up to make new memories and experience new things. We can take the good and the lessons we have learned from the past to move us forward. Too much nostalgia is a major obstacle in moving on to the next step. There comes a point in our lives in which we need to learn to let go of the past to be able to fully live the present with peace and contentment in our hearts.
Making a decision to change our perspective
In order to be content we need to make a conscious decision to change our perspective in life. When looking at a cup of tea we should see it as half full and not half empty. Well we need to apply that change of perspective to our thinking.
With this change – every accomplishment no matter how “small” is a milestone. Every good thing we have or experience is a reason to rejoice. Every difficult lesson we have learned is a treasure we have gained in life.
When we are content we are at peace. We have chosen to be happy even though circumstances are difficult. We have decided to see things in a perspective of valuing every “little” good thing in life. The word of God says that we should be thankful. God is giving us a command: To be thankful.
A thankful heart will change the way we see everything around us. A thankful heart will make us much happier each and every day. Choose the half full perspective. Choose to think of all the good that has come out of a circumstance.
1 minute meditation
Once you make that choice you will begin to enjoy every little aspect of life. You will begin to see the beauty in the smallest things. You’ll realize that you haven’t stopped and smelled flowers in a long time. You’ll look out the window and say why haven’t I seen how beautiful the sky is lately? Look at the way those leaves blow in the wind! The smallest thing will bring you joy.
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