Is social networking good or bad & why blog ?

By Eren Mckay  
Filed under Miscellaneous

There are literally thousands of social networks on the internet. Before we go into the explanation of why online networking is important for you personally and professionally, I want to list a few of the most popular social networks that are online today.

Of course this is not an exhaustive list. It’s just a few of the basic ones:

Microblogging Platform:

Click here for Twitter

Video Sharing:

Click here for Youtube

Social Networking:
Google Plus

Social Networking:

Click here for Facebook

Social Bookmarking:

Click here for Delicious

Social Bookmarking:

Click here for Stumbleupon

You can also find thousands of “niched” social networks by searching for individual ones on Ning.

Another great tool for social networking is using voip services which allow you to call and talk to people all over the world for free. Having conversations is one of the fastest ways to establish relationships with people online.

Click here for Skype

There are several services but my favorite service is Skype. You can download Skype for free to your computer. Anyone in the world who has an internet connection and Skype installed on their computer will be able to talk to you (free of charge).

Grab Your Name on these Social Networks

If you don’t have an account on the places listed above, I strongly suggest that you go sign up with your first and last name (or your first two names) in each one of them. Even if you’re not going to start using them all right away, it’s always a good idea to grab your name so that no one else gets it. (Some people will grab others’ names just so they can “squat” on it and sometimes even impersonate others.) So if you don’t yet have your name on them you should do so A.S.A.P.

Brand Yourself and Be “Findable”

Another reason for you to use the same name everywhere is so that you may brand yourself.

magnifying glassFor example; my username on all of these different social networks is Eren Mckay. By having my username be the same across all online networks, it makes it easier for people to remember and find me. This is why it’s so important not to change your username in each place as it just makes branding and “findability” more difficult. Make it simple for people to find you.

Why is it that people use social networks? What kind of mindset should we have when social networking?

The true goal of social networking is to establish relationships with people. Unfortunately not everyone has this mindset when they go onto social media sites. There are those who look at the people there as dollar bills. Their sole purpose is to see “how much money they can make” off of others. This kind of mindset is a Taker – User mentality. If money is at the forefront of anyone’s thinking when social networking then their mindset is just plain wrong. Social networking is not a means of personal gain without actually caring about others.

The Giver Mentality

The right mindset is to help others while being open to learn and grow in the process. Being selfish may even work for a short amount of time but not in the long run.

There are even those who attempt to act like they care but in reality they’re just faking it. Eventually their masks fall off.
There’s a saying that goes something like this: “People don’t care about how much you know until they know how much you care”. Having the “people first” mentality will help you go much further personally and professionally.
When networking we should be asking ourselves: How can I be of service to others? How can I help people get to where they need to go? The financial gains are a natural consequence of having the right intent when networking, but should never be the primary goal.

Advantages of Social Networking

Other than forming relationships with people, one of the biggest advantages of social networking is learning. There are many things that we would otherwise not even know existed if we didn’t network with others. There’s so much to learn that can help make our lives easier or better. When we network we end up being warned about things that could hurt us and also discovering helpful tips. As good networkers, we should always freely share information that we find useful. By communicating our experiences with each other we can go so much further in our knowledge base.

And Example of a Great Networker

For example Kristi from is an excellent example of someone who is great at social networking. Every Friday she writes a post called Fetching Friday Resources where she links to other blog posts that she has read and found useful. I thoroughly enjoy her Fetching Friday posts. I’ve found some golden nuggets of information through her blog and her tweets.

So What’s the Next Step?

Now that we’ve covered the basics and the advantages of social networking, let’s talk about how to maintain relationships with the people that we meet on social media sites.

One of the things that you should keep “top of mind” is that it’s always a great idea to bring people back to your blog. If they come to your blog and like what you write, they might subscribe to read your blog through an RSS feed or even sign up to your mailing list. This is a sure way to maintain long lasting relationships.
I created a graphic to make understanding this principle very simple:

Social Map

Be a Blogger Who Gives Back to the Community

Whatever your niche may be, as a blogger you want to always provide the best resources for your readers. One of the reasons blogging is so great is the the interaction between readers and the blogger.
The readers can leave their valuable insights or ideas in the comment section.

Unfortunately, by default WordPress has the commenters’ link to be no follow. The fact that it’s no follow will prevent any link juice from passing on. It may be that your readers also have websites or blogs and if so, you will be helping your commenters by installing the do follow plugin. This will allow the link to their website get some juice for ranking purposes in the search engines.
If you are a blogger who really cares about other bloggers then I strongly suggest you turn your comment section into do follow.

Spread the Love Through Linking

There’s a community of cool bloggers out there who not only reward their commenters with a do follow link but also have a plugin installed called commentluv which pulls the commenters’ latest blog post and links to it with their title.

The commentluv plugin in conjunction with the do follow plugin will actually help your commenters’ webpage get ranked in the search engines for their keywords. This is the ultimate in social networking while blogging. You’re having a conversation with people and also helping them get ranked for their keyword phrases.

Bloggers with the Right Mindset

Bloggers who link to other bloggers have the right mindset when it comes to social networking. Sire is one of these bloggers. He wrote a really smart blogging poem and linked to fellow bloggers.

I’m happy to say that I’m a part of this community of bloggers who give back. This blog is and will always be do follow. I also have the commentluv plugin installed which will give you a link to your latest blog post with your title keywords in it. I think these two plugins are awesome because they enable you to help others while blogging. So don’t forget to subscribe to the RSS feed so that you can see every time I add a new blog post.

I hope this post has helped clarify why social networking is important and how to incorporate it into your blogging journey.
What about you? What are your experiences and ideas about social networking? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comment section below 😉 .

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26 Comments on "Is social networking good or bad & why blog ?"

  1. Ms. Freeman  

    As all the social media venues grow I have found that I have to schedule a minimum of one working day simply to update them all. Gone are the days (for me at least) of updating these sites as the day progresses, if I do it that way I tend to get side tracked and end up tweeting or face booking all day.

  2. Extreme John  

    Even though you named my boy John Sullivan as a cool blogger and not me I will let it slide, John is a motivator for me thats for sure.

    You put this together really nice Erin, RT and it will be in my Sunday Smash.
    .-= Extreme John´s last blog ..Twittley WordPress Plugin for Twitter Review =-.

  3. Kikolani  

    Thanks for mentioning me… I feel like I’ve been slacking a bit at the social networking, but I am very happy that people find my Fetching Fridays so useful. 🙂

    ~ Kristi
    .-= Kikolani´s last blog ..Fetching Friday – Resources Mashup, Another Day at the Office & Swine Flu =-.

  4. Sire  

    Eren, thanks so much for linking to that post, especially considering that it was part of such a well written post.
    .-= Sire´s last blog ..A Poem For Halloween The Night Of Frights =-.

  5. Eren Mckay  

    @Ms. Freeman – I have to agree that setting aside time to network is the best thing to do. I don’t have a scheduled time to network but I do it after my “obligations” are done. I love tweeting, skyping, talking to peeps….So if I don’t stop myself I’ll do it all day 😀 .

    @ExtremeJohn – Hey there thanks so much for your comment. I’m so glad you enjoyed the post. And be sure that I think you’re a cool blogger too. (Watch out for other posts of mine when I mention you 😉 )

    @Kristi – Hey girl! Yes we all absolutely love your Fetching Friday posts. I’m glad you’re feeling better from your cold.

    @Sire – My pleasure linking to your poem. It was very thoughtful of you to write it.

    All the best,
    Eren Mckay

  6. Robert Nelson  

    Fantastic first post, great use of images, good content. Looks like I need your help instead of the other way around. Blog on!

  7. Robert Nelson  

    If it were me I would create either a Blogging category or a Social Network category.

  8. Eren Mckay  

    Hi Robert,
    Thanks so much for your feedback and the compliments.
    I agree with you that I definitely need to create a “better named” category to put this post in. I’ll have to do the keyword research for that 😀
    Thanks again for all your support,

  9. Jay Zuckerman  


    You brought up a number of excellent points. I strongly believe in the power of the internet and social media specifically to connect human beings together in profound ways. You must give to get.

    It is a very human desire to seek to make connections with other human beings, but treating someone as a statistic or a fraction of a cent or whatever is just a puzzling and disturbing attitude. I still need to make the do follow conversion with my art blog, but I have been a bit worried about spam.

    Anyway, thanks for sharing all your thoughts on everything social media.

    .-= Jay Zuckerman´s last blog ..Jack and the Shaman =-.

  10. Paul Cooley  

    Great job Eren! That’s an awesome break down of social networking! I have to agree with Jay, thinking and treating visitors like a statistic is NOT the right way to go about blogging or networking.

    Keep up the great work Eren!

  11. Eren Mckay  

    Hi Jay,
    Thanks so much for stopping by 😉
    I truly do love to help others. I believe that looking at people as wallets and purses is simply not right. Yes we all need to make an income but this should not be at the forefront. The income will come as a result.
    By the way I went to your website and was amazed with your artwork.
    All the best,
    Eren Mckay

  12. Eren Mckay  

    Wow Paul- we were actually commenting at the exact same time! How cool is that?

    Thanks for stopping by 😀

    All the best,
    Eren Mckay

  13. Dan Nappi  

    Hey Eren I love the fact you are committed to rewarding your viewers and you say that you will always will be a do follow blog.

    Nothing peaves me more than bloggers that switch from do follow to no follow when it was their intentions all along to be no follow. I even wrote a post about this, you also see it a lot with social bookmarking sites.

    Keep up the good work your blog rocks girl.
    .-= Dan Nappi´s last blog ..5 Ideas That Will Help You Remember To Get Things Done =-.

  14. Maria @ Conversations with Moms  

    I am definitely a do follow blog. I appreciate every single one of my followers and commentators which is why I comment back. I agree with everything you wrote 100%. Social networking should definitely be about building communities and relationships.

  15. Eren Mckay  

    @Dan – couldn’t agree with you more. It has to be a well thought of decision. If you’re going to be Do Follow then it’s not the best idea to change later on in the game. Of course if you take commentluv out later the links that were generated while it was installed don’t leave. But changing from Do Follow to No Follow will ruin all previous links. Personally I’m not taking out any of them 😉 This blog is a “people first” blog – Do Follow Movement – woohoo ! 😀 LOL

    @Maria – I also am grateful and appreciative for every single person that reads my blog. Thanks so much for stopping by.

    All the best,
    Eren Mckay

  16. Alan  

    Hey Eren,

    Thanks for the great post. It’s good to see kind, caring people contributing their time to help others. I know you’ll be successful because you are inspiring others like myself to do what they love and at the same time give them ideas and tools to become successful. Your blog is on it’s way to becoming a medium for bringing a lot of great people together to share ideas and common interests.

  17. Eren Mckay  

    @Alan – It warmed my heart to read your comment. I’ve been wanting to start this blog for a while now. Took me a while to find the htaccess code to do it correctly.
    Anyways- I plan on sharing what I’ve discovered. My next blog post will be about how I exploded my blog and what not to do with a wordpress blog so that it doesn’t explode LOL 😀 . Personal experience is my inspiration for this next post I’m coming out with. Anyways- it’s great to meet you.
    All the best,

  18. Marketing Infowrangler  

    I found a fun new site that makes it easy to keep track of any topic across all social media and search engines.
    .-= Marketing Infowrangler´s last blog ..Local search: big potential for your small business. =-.

  19. Eren Mckay  

    Hey Mike- thanks so much for that link. That’s an excellent resource for doing real time research. Comes in handy when doing research for article writing.
    All the best,

  20. crazy blogger  

    i am using these social networking sites to get some traffic to my sites and also to find some new friends and good blogs having the unique content.

  21. Kirstin  

    Have you try friendfeed? I suggest you to use it, because friendfeed also strong enough to dive traffic and share your blog info

  22. Eren Mckay  

    @CrazyBlogger – Social networking is awesome to make friendships on. Since I’m a people person I totally love it.

    @Kirstin – That’s a great suggestion. I still haven’t set that up yet- will be sure to do so. Thanks for reminding me.
    All the best,
    .-= Eren Mckay´s last blog ..Free Online Alphabetical Order Games Abc Internet Activities =-.

  23. Jayce  

    Oh no… I still don’t have some of them. Need to sign up now.

  24. Natalya  

    Hi Eren, thanks for the nice post.

    It is true, give something good to others will give a better impact for us. Give attention to others would be much to our benefit in the end. On the social networking we can share or even find brilliant ideas that we never before thought. Together will always be more interesting than alone.

  25. Eren Mckay  

    @Jayce – Don’t feel bad. I still haven’t gotten signed up to a whole bunch that I should be signed up to.

    @Natalya – I totally agree with that mentality. And I want to surround myself with like minded people. It’s all about helping others.

    All the best ♥,
    Eren Mckay

  26. Lisa  

    Great article Eren! I appreciate that you brought out the real value of social networking…that is building relationships. I have met some wonderful friends as well as amazing business associates that I would not have been able to meet if I had not been on a social media network.

    There is so much to share and learn from each other!

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