By Eren Mckay
Filed under Miscellaneous
The internet has revolutionized people’s everyday lives.
We now have access to a vast amount of information that simply was not easily available before.
For me personally, the absolute best part of the internet is the great opportunity that we have to make friends with people from all over the world. Thousands of miles apart, different cultures and customs are not impediments to making and maintaining friendships nowadays.
What does this have to do with your life?
Well simply put, this means that if you have a computer and an internet connection, no matter how isolated you may be, you can connect with others. Many factors end up isolating people in life. For example: you may not be able to get out of the home because of illness, taking care of elderly parents, caring for young kids, living far out in the country, etc.
Even if you’re not isolated, you can gain so much from making friends online.
You can learn new things and see life from a different perspective. Another motivating factor may be that you don’t connect emotionally with the people that you know locally. Making online friends is a huge freedom. There is no need for you to feel lonely or isolated wherever you may be.
Of course there are bad people online. Just as in the offline world you will find “bad apples” online too. But the good news is that there are great people out there. We shouldn’t lose the opportunity to make friends just because we’re scared of the bad ones.
Friends fulfill us in a special way.
Everyone needs to feel appreciated and loved and somehow connected to other people. I have made some fantastic friends online.
This may sound weird to some people but to me a real friend is more valuable than a big load of money in my bank account. A good friend truly is priceless.
Forums are great for connecting.
If you want to make friends online you can do so through various “avenues.” You can search for forums that are about topics that interest you. If you have common interests with others, it’s more likely to have a connection to them. Just go to Google and type in the search box: forum “topic that interests you”. Replace the words “topic that interests you” for whatever you’re into. It may be antiques, computer games, parenting, cooking, etc. For example I like web design so if I wanted to find people to connect with and talk about that topic I would type in there: forum “web design”.
Another place that you can find communities that share an interest are Ning communities.You can search for niche communities by going to this link and typing in the words that interest you. There are loads of Ning groups out there about lots of topics imaginable.
Talking through Skype
Once you have established a certain connection through a Ning or forum community you can take the next step in that friendship and add that contact in Skype. Now you’re taking that friendship to another level. It’s just like talking on the phone. It’s so cool! (Skype is free software what you can install on your computer and lets you talk to everyone in the world for free. If you don’t already have it you can download it from this link . ) I can honestly tell you that I have made some of my best friends online through Skype. I’m a total fan.
In order to make online friends you need to go to where they are. Where is everyone nowadays? They’re on Twitter. So yes my friend, you definitely should get a Twitter account if you want to make friends online. By the way, I’m an official twitterholic 😉 LOL.
In my opinion, Twitter is the best thing since sliced bread- 😀 . Seriously though, Twitter is a great way to connect with people.
Let me tell you why I absolutely l♥ve to tweet.
Twitter is like a giant chat room – only it’s so much better. You can send public or private messages to people. There aren’t thousands of functions to it so once you get the hang of Twitter, it’s very easy to use.
The nature of Twitter is laid back which means you can talk about some personal information there too. You decide how personal you want to get though 🙂 (Just remember that this is public- anyone can see your tweets unless you make them private.)
If you want to say something quickly to someone you don’t have to send them a long drawn out email. If they’re an avid user of Twitter they’ll end up seeing it probably within 24 hours (sometimes minutes ). A simple tweet makes it so much easier to communicate.
Let me show you a real live conversation that has made my friendship grow with an awesome blogger by using Twitter:
The other day, I was taking some time off from working and decided to go read some really cool blogs that I always read. As usual, I went to WChingYa’s Social Media Blog. She always has some really great articles that are helpful to any blogger. She wrote a post about sharing selective tweets through Facebook and I commented on it. I told her that I would stumble, delicious and tweet the post because it was so good. Here’s the comment that I left:
Right after I left her my comment, my kids started to fight about something and ask me for help. I completely forgot what I was doing on the computer. I closed my browser and went to tend to the boys.
9 hours later I was going through my Word document where I save all of my comments.
(Side note: Yes I save all of my comments simply because there have been many times when the comment gets lost and that is very frustrating to me.)
So while I was scanning through I noticed that I had told her that I would stumble, delicious, and tweet her post.
But it had been 9 hours since I had told her that.
Oh my! Now what? Would she think that I was lying? What was she going to think of me? So I immediately opened up Twitter and tweeted her post:
Then I stumbled and delicioused it. But I was feeling really bad because I didn’t want her to think that I’m a liar (I’m not).
So what did I decide to do? I decided to tweetagize. Yeah, that’s Twitterese for apologize on Twitter- 😀 LOL.
So I tweeted her and tried to explain in 140 characters what had happened. Here’s the tweet:
Well guess what? Her response was just awesome. She said that there was no need to apologize! Isn’t that just sweet of her? She is a total ♥ tweetheart ♥.
Here’s her tweet:
I explained that I have A.D.D. ( Attention Deficit Disorder) and that it hadn’t been on purpose. It’s at times like these that I’m really glad that I keep things organized and structured.
After this we really have started to tweet each other. She friended me and sent me a message on Facebook.
This whole episode showed me how apologizing can be the best thing! We have created a closer connection. I consider her my friend. I just absolutely love making friends with cool peeps like her!
By the way, you should definitely follow her on twitter @wchingya and on her page on facebook .
As you can see Twitter made it so fast and easy to communicate with her.
Making friends online is not hard.
So if you want to build friendships, my advice to you is to get yourself out there. Start posting on forums, tweeting, skyping and simply connecting with others.
Don’t be afraid to say you’re sorry when you mess up. Be yourself- those who like you will and those who don’t, won’t (and that’s okay). Be sincere. Care about others. You’ll be making great friends in no time!
What about you?
What are your thoughts and experiences with online friendships?
Please share in the comment section below :-D.
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